Things were going along just fine in the sex department until you got pregnant and, nine months later, out popped a wailing newborn. Body changes, family changes and new responsibilities can sometimes make post-baby sex more challenging, but what’s normal? Here, check out few truth about sex after pregnancy:
1. Your sex drive revs back up around six weeks after giving birth.
False: While most doctors give women the all-clear for sex six weeks after childbirth, not all women are raring to go. And according to many experts, it can take a woman months, even an entire year to regain her sex drive. Many women associate sex with performing just another chore, having to be touched becomes just another sacrifice on her part. So, when he touches her, whether he wants sex or not, her body immediately shuts down.” The solution? Make time for no-pressure intimacy, like cuddling on the couch together after the baby is asleep, that doesn’t necessarily end in sex.
2. You probably won’t snap back into shape right away, and your faltering body image might make you shy away from sex.
True: We see so many images of celebrities sporting bikinis and baring their toned, taut bodies right after giving birth. “The reality is that most new moms’ bodies don’t look like that—and most new moms don’t have celebrity bank accounts for trainers and designer diets.” “Treat yourself with kindness and compassion as you heal and adjust to your new life as a parent. The truth is that women are much harder on themselves about their post-childbirth bodies than their partners are. Of the husbands and partners we surveyed, most said that their biggest concern was that their wives didn’t feel more confident about their bodies.”
3.Your husband is counting down the minutes until you’re cleared to have sex again.
False: Whether it’s because of a C-section, a bad tear or other complications, there’s usually a period of time when sex is out of the question after the birth of a baby, and it’s easy for a woman to feel as though her husband is getting impatient—especially after nine long months of pregnancy when you may not have had as much sex as you used to. Even if you aren’t ready to have sex just yet, a hug or some snuggling can go a long way in the intimacy department.
4. Your vagina may never be the same again.
True: It’s something none of us really wants to hear, but after childbirth, many women have looser vaginas. But if you’re worried about this affecting your sex life, don’t. “Yes, the vaginal tissue does expand from childbirth, but it’s very pliable.” your anatomy should return to its normal shape in the months following delivery. However, if you feel that something isn’t quite right—pressure, a continued feeling of “looseness” or pain during intercourse—it could be a sign of a pelvic organ prolapse and it’s something you should talk to your doctor
5. Breastfeeding makes you feel sexier.
False: Your breasts swell and may increase several sizes after having a baby, so it stands to reason that you’d feel sexier with your curvier, perkier breasts, right? But the truth is, while breastfeeding is great for the health of your baby, it’s probably not going to do much for your sex life. The breastfeeding hormone prolactin inhibits the release of estrogen, the hormone that gives women libido. “Breastfeeding moms can lose interest in sex and experience vaginal dryness. Some breastfeeding moms also describe a feeling of being ‘touched out.’ When you have a baby on the boob all day and you’re pumping breast milk, you might get turned off when your partner wants to touch them.”
6. Sex may hurt at first, but it shouldn’t hurt that badly.
True: Even if you had a normal birth experience, with minimal trauma, you can expect a bit of pain the first time you have sex again. Your vagina will be tender and natural dryness can amplify things. What’s not normal, however, is pain that doesn’t subside with a little lubrication or time. “Scar tissue from a tear or episiotomy can result in painful intercourse Scar tissue results in the ‘pinchy’ sensation that many women feel during intercourse after having a baby. Bottom line: If the pain doesn’t feel normal, give your body a little more time to heal and make an appointment to see your doctor.